How is it that time can stand still and yet go by so fast? I think my mind and my body must be in alternate universes. In my mind I am still 22. I just got married. Somehow I have 2 children, we must have found them on our doorstep.
In reality Soung-Sik and I got married 10 years ago today. It was rainy and cold that day as well. My body is proof that my children didn't come from the doorstep. Sadly I won't ever have a 2 in front of my age again unless I make it to 200.
It is still strange to me that my perfect match was someone, who on paper, is completely opposite from me. I doubt that any dating agency on the planet would have ever paired the two of us up. Thank goodness I subscribed to heavenlymatch.com instead. On paper we have a 10 year age difference, actually 9 years and 360 days difference. I promised myself I would never marry someone 10 years older than myself, that's just gross! Factor in different languages, different religions, different cultures, and me never meeting any of his family. Somehow after the second date we had made up our minds, even though we tell each other. We dated non-stop for 7 months and were engaged for a whopping 3 weeks. We were a recipe for disaster.
Looking at it now I can't believe I found someone who balances me in so many ways. We care about the same things, and we don't care about the same things. We are perfectly content just being together at home. There isn't another soul on Earth I could be more comfortable and genuinely myself with. We find the same things funny, and believe me it doesn't have to be very funny. Soung-Sik is very giving and I am mostly selfish, so that balances out well, especially when blankets and cookies are concerned. But one thing I love most about our relationship is that we are both extremely stubborn and opinionated. I am grateful that I didn't marry someone that would let me walk all over him. I love that we both feel strongly about life, fortunately most of the time we feel the same way. Occasionally we disagree and then you'd better stand back. Because of our stubbornness it gives me courage in life. I know that whatever challenges come, when we are united we make a powerful team and we will make it through.
I have had so much joy the past 10 years, mixed with a little stress and a little sadness. Add more laughs and happiness than I could have imagined. And what started out as a recipe for disaster has turned into something sweeter than you could ever buy.
Soung-Sik, I am so grateful I said "yes" to you 10 years ago today, it was the most important decision of my life and I think I got it right!
No comments:
Post a Comment